The Meaning of Menopause: Part Of My Identitiy
Over the course of our adult lives, women get somewhat attached to our cycle. It's part of us; we operate our lives on this cycle. At some point this cycle changes and we know what it means for our bodies but what does it mean to our identity?
It takes us a few years to learn how to live in harmony with our cycles and many times wish we could get rid of it. It does, however, remind us that we are the life line for the next generation. It reminds us of what power we hold.
It's also part of our identity sexually. I always identified myself as a powerful, sexy diva. I very much embraced that as part of my identity as a woman. I had no idea how much my hormonal balance was a big deal and made all that possible.
When I entered into menopause at 43, I wasn't ready to give up that part of my identity. Rather than feel like a sexy diva, I felt like a wreck. Not only did I feel like a wreck, but I felt cheated. I was supposed to have another few years before I entered into menopause...right? I felt like a young woman in an old woman's body. I saw the signs of rapid aging, my skin was different, I put on a few pounds and things were operating differently sexually.
For a couple of months I felt depressed about it.
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CharlotteSal,
Wonderful column. It IS a confusing time of life, because all those hormones in transition affect us in every way -- mentally, physically, spiritually. I am happy to read how you've come through your journey. I'm not quite to the other side of it yet, but I'm on the way. Thanks again for your point of view.
I love the article-Definitely can relate to this regarding identity. I know for me I had some of those same feelings and emotions. Glad I took my identity in my hands and searched for natural healthy alternatives to help me deal with my menopause. We all all need to know that we can be the sexy diva's. Menopause does not control me, I control menopause. Tally-http://www.thehotflashcoach.com
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I actually looked forward to menopause. The only trouble I've had is that I haven't responded well to HRT. My DH's trouble has been with my hot flashes, LOL! Sometimes, though, that can be a rather funny experience.
I wonder what sort of HRT you went with alysiak. Did you get your adrenals tested? Taking an adrenal supplement did a world of good for me and the hot flashes.