Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi my question is that my girlfriend was in top of me and she was wearing cotton shorts and I was wearing my pyjama and I ejaculated when she was on top of me we both were without undies can she be pregnant I have lot of stress plz help
October 4, 2020 - 5:46amThis Comment
Anon,
If you had pajamas on and she had cotton shorts on, your clothes would act as a barrier and for all intents and purposes, prevent ejaculate from entering her.
Helena
October 4, 2020 - 6:13amThis Comment
Is there risk of pregnancy?
October 4, 2020 - 9:46amThis Comment
Anon,
Only you and your girlfriend know exactly what happened. If it's as you say, I don't see a risk of pregnancy in your scenario.
Pregnancy happens when two people have sexual intercourse and the man ejaculates inside the woman. She would also have to be ovulating. Read through the article for more information.
Helena
October 4, 2020 - 10:49amThis Comment
We were dry humping with my girlfriend and we were fully clothed. I saw some wetness on my pants. Is there any way semen could have soaked through 4 layers of clothing?
September 5, 2020 - 6:45amThis Comment
Hello, Anon!
Semen cannot penetrate 4 layers of clothing and find its way into a woman's vagina. As mentioned in the article above and several times in comments, there is no risk of pregnancy in this kind of situation.
best,
Helena
September 5, 2020 - 7:29amThis Comment
Okey but cant sperm that is in semen get through the tiny holes of clothes as they are microscopic?
September 5, 2020 - 10:39pmThis Comment
No.
Sperm cannot travel though layers of clothing to impregnate. Pregnancy happens when two people have sexual intercourse and the man ejaculates inside the woman. Take the time to read through the above article and comments.
Helena
September 6, 2020 - 5:53amThis Comment
Hey so I’ve had so many mental break downs about this and I’m paranoid. My period is late I haven’t had it this entire month. Me and my boyfriend were dry humping. I had jeans and underwear on and he had adidas joggers and boxers on. I came I think but he said he didnt. But my periods late. Could I be pregnant?
March 25, 2019 - 2:18pmThis Comment
Hello Anon
I'm not sure you know what a mental breakdown is but you can't be pregnant if you don't have sex and you make out with someone when both of you were fully clothed. We cannot say why your period is late but it's not due to pregnancy.
Best,
March 25, 2019 - 4:15pmSusan
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